The M-flare, or Mental flare is an important step in your shifting journey. This is basically like a practice for your mermaid lifeThe mental flare... I think may be one of the most fun, and easy, aspects of shifting (until you actually shift physically, that is!) For a recap, mental flaring is basically letting your mermaid mind take over completely. Out of all of my shifting, I've also found that the mermaid M-Flare is one of the easiest to accomplish. There is just something about the water covering your up, or the sun shining through the top of the water, or the warm sand pressing against your back that just makes the Mental Flare something magickal. So, how do we do it?
The first thing I would pay attention to is how you look at the moment. If you are wearing jeans with your hair tied up in a pony tail and a t-shirt... well, thats not very mermaidish. However, being in your bathing suit with your hair down, shells adorning your body, and maybe some water proof makeup will probably make you feel a lot more like a mermaid away from home. For right now, don't even worry too much about if the accessories are accurate, or if mermaids ever wear makeup (they probably don't) or anything like that. Right now, you are just trying to feel like you are one! Another thing that helps so much is a fake mermaid tail or monofin. I have both, and believe me, it really makes you feel one with the water. Unfortunately, it also make you feel one with an empty wallet! Mermaid tails and monofins can be very expensive, especially if you have big feet like myself, and are forced into buying the $80, larger monofin, instead of the smaller ones that cost around $30-$50. Also, the materials can cost a lot.... or, if you buy one from a website, the whole tail can cost a lot as well! To help with this mermaid dilemma, I have included some links at the bottom of the page- along with my views of them- to help you get your first fake tail. Take note, that while you do not need a fake tail to M-Flare, it is strongly suggested that you have one.... they're fun, and help with the experience!
Now, the second super important thing to a Mental Flare would probably be your location. If you're just sitting on your bed in the middle of the night, or at school or something, then an M-Flare might be a little difficult. Remember- mermaids SWIM. They are meant to be submersed in water, swimming freely among their environment. So, while sitting in your bathtub may be a little bit better than sitting on your bed... well, its still not very good. For M-Flaring, I would suggest making your way to a pool, a lake, or even an ocean! My personal suggestion would be a nice salt water pool... there is a lot less harmful chlorine, its a lot more like the ocean,and you can open your eyes underwater! Further, there is room to swim, but its not as dangerous as the ocean or as dirty as a lake. Of course, on the down side... its not as natural. So, a good thing to do would be to have a mixture of each. If your mermaid is a lake mermaid, then I would try fresh water pools and ponds, and also swimming in the lake a lot. If you are an ocean mermaid, then I would try salt water pools and the oceans... but be careful. The ocean can have strong tides and currents, which are easily over come for mermaids, but not for humans. So, when swimming in the ocean, just make sure that you are at a very shallow or safe area before swimming. Also, if you are swimming with your fake mermaid tail, I would suggest having someone watch over you, just to make sure nothing bad happens. A dead human would not make a very good mermaid!
Alright, now that you've got the two most important things all out of the way, its time for you to actually start M-flaring! While you can do small M-Flares anywhere, I would suggest setting a day aside just to M-Flare. You won't be like that all day long, but it would be a day to be... especially mermaid-like. For instance, that morning, you would wake up... and instead of taking a shower, you could take a bath and light a candle. Or, you could take a shower and use some body wash that reminds you of the ocean. While getting ready for the day, you could put on some water proof make up that makes you look like a mermaid... in your view at least. Do your hair with beach waves, or strait. Just have fun with it, there is not right or wrong! You could wear shells, and the color of your tail with a bathing suit underneath. For breakfast lunch and dinner, you could adjust your diet to that of a mermaids... (whatever you think a mermaid's diet would be! My ideas and thoughts are in the Tips and Ideas section!). Just spend the whole day in a bit of a mermaid daze. Then, when the time comes for you to actually M-Flare, you'll already be halfway there.
So, I would begin in an area that you can sit or even lay down in the water without the water going into your nose, mouth, or eyes. Close your eyes and completely relax. Let the water wash over you, in your physical body. Feel the spirit of the ocean... the spirit of the mermaid washing over with every wave. Let the water draw this mermaid part of you out from your soul, and into your mind. Let your human mind go blank, and let mermaid thoughts and feels sweep through you. Don't worry, you still think, and you'll still need to breath air, and you won't lose yourself. Just change your mind into that of a mermaid. Feel a mermaids cravings, her instincts and thoughts. Finally, get up, and letting the mermaid part of you move you, slip into the water and swim. Remember, you are not swimming like a human. You are using your legs to kick up and down, and you are gracefully rolling through the water. Open your eyes if you can and look around. If you are in a swimming pool, open your eyes and imagine that right before you is coral,or sea weed, or the mucky bottom of a lake. Do not swim at the surface, but go down into the water. Don't worry about breathing; your body will bring you back to the surface and you won't drown. Likewise, don't try to push yourself too much with holding your breath. Just let your body do what it needs to do. I've actually found that in this state, sometimes your lungs won't start to hurt... they won't tell you that you desperately need to breath or anything. You just sit there wondering when you're going to need to come up for air, which usually happens after a while, but it also lets you hold your breath longer. Anyway, just try to enjoy yourself in this state. Be how you think a mermaid would be, in an out of the water. You should come out of your M-Flare feeling whole and connected to your other self.
Have fun!
The first thing I would pay attention to is how you look at the moment. If you are wearing jeans with your hair tied up in a pony tail and a t-shirt... well, thats not very mermaidish. However, being in your bathing suit with your hair down, shells adorning your body, and maybe some water proof makeup will probably make you feel a lot more like a mermaid away from home. For right now, don't even worry too much about if the accessories are accurate, or if mermaids ever wear makeup (they probably don't) or anything like that. Right now, you are just trying to feel like you are one! Another thing that helps so much is a fake mermaid tail or monofin. I have both, and believe me, it really makes you feel one with the water. Unfortunately, it also make you feel one with an empty wallet! Mermaid tails and monofins can be very expensive, especially if you have big feet like myself, and are forced into buying the $80, larger monofin, instead of the smaller ones that cost around $30-$50. Also, the materials can cost a lot.... or, if you buy one from a website, the whole tail can cost a lot as well! To help with this mermaid dilemma, I have included some links at the bottom of the page- along with my views of them- to help you get your first fake tail. Take note, that while you do not need a fake tail to M-Flare, it is strongly suggested that you have one.... they're fun, and help with the experience!
Now, the second super important thing to a Mental Flare would probably be your location. If you're just sitting on your bed in the middle of the night, or at school or something, then an M-Flare might be a little difficult. Remember- mermaids SWIM. They are meant to be submersed in water, swimming freely among their environment. So, while sitting in your bathtub may be a little bit better than sitting on your bed... well, its still not very good. For M-Flaring, I would suggest making your way to a pool, a lake, or even an ocean! My personal suggestion would be a nice salt water pool... there is a lot less harmful chlorine, its a lot more like the ocean,and you can open your eyes underwater! Further, there is room to swim, but its not as dangerous as the ocean or as dirty as a lake. Of course, on the down side... its not as natural. So, a good thing to do would be to have a mixture of each. If your mermaid is a lake mermaid, then I would try fresh water pools and ponds, and also swimming in the lake a lot. If you are an ocean mermaid, then I would try salt water pools and the oceans... but be careful. The ocean can have strong tides and currents, which are easily over come for mermaids, but not for humans. So, when swimming in the ocean, just make sure that you are at a very shallow or safe area before swimming. Also, if you are swimming with your fake mermaid tail, I would suggest having someone watch over you, just to make sure nothing bad happens. A dead human would not make a very good mermaid!
Alright, now that you've got the two most important things all out of the way, its time for you to actually start M-flaring! While you can do small M-Flares anywhere, I would suggest setting a day aside just to M-Flare. You won't be like that all day long, but it would be a day to be... especially mermaid-like. For instance, that morning, you would wake up... and instead of taking a shower, you could take a bath and light a candle. Or, you could take a shower and use some body wash that reminds you of the ocean. While getting ready for the day, you could put on some water proof make up that makes you look like a mermaid... in your view at least. Do your hair with beach waves, or strait. Just have fun with it, there is not right or wrong! You could wear shells, and the color of your tail with a bathing suit underneath. For breakfast lunch and dinner, you could adjust your diet to that of a mermaids... (whatever you think a mermaid's diet would be! My ideas and thoughts are in the Tips and Ideas section!). Just spend the whole day in a bit of a mermaid daze. Then, when the time comes for you to actually M-Flare, you'll already be halfway there.
So, I would begin in an area that you can sit or even lay down in the water without the water going into your nose, mouth, or eyes. Close your eyes and completely relax. Let the water wash over you, in your physical body. Feel the spirit of the ocean... the spirit of the mermaid washing over with every wave. Let the water draw this mermaid part of you out from your soul, and into your mind. Let your human mind go blank, and let mermaid thoughts and feels sweep through you. Don't worry, you still think, and you'll still need to breath air, and you won't lose yourself. Just change your mind into that of a mermaid. Feel a mermaids cravings, her instincts and thoughts. Finally, get up, and letting the mermaid part of you move you, slip into the water and swim. Remember, you are not swimming like a human. You are using your legs to kick up and down, and you are gracefully rolling through the water. Open your eyes if you can and look around. If you are in a swimming pool, open your eyes and imagine that right before you is coral,or sea weed, or the mucky bottom of a lake. Do not swim at the surface, but go down into the water. Don't worry about breathing; your body will bring you back to the surface and you won't drown. Likewise, don't try to push yourself too much with holding your breath. Just let your body do what it needs to do. I've actually found that in this state, sometimes your lungs won't start to hurt... they won't tell you that you desperately need to breath or anything. You just sit there wondering when you're going to need to come up for air, which usually happens after a while, but it also lets you hold your breath longer. Anyway, just try to enjoy yourself in this state. Be how you think a mermaid would be, in an out of the water. You should come out of your M-Flare feeling whole and connected to your other self.
Have fun!